HUYU NI SHEMEJI YANGU KABISA, MKE WA KAKA YANGU LAKINI UTANI WAKE UMEPITILIZA

Kuna ule utani wa mashemeji lakini utani wa shemeji yangu huyu umezidi ndugu zangu. Siku moja nilikuwa natoka zangu kwenye mizunguko yango ya kila siku mjini, nilipofika nyumbani nilimkuta shemeji yangu nyumbani, kaka alikuwa bado hajarudi.

kama kawaida yake akaanza.“Haya mume wangu kipenzi leo umeniletea nini”  Nikamwambia leo sina kitu wife kesho nitakuletea bonge la zawadi ,akasema wala usijali mume wangu leo nina bonge la zawadi yako, mi nikajua utani…!Aliniacha sebuleni yeye akaingia chumbani kwake na mimi pia sikukaa sana nilienda chumbani kwangu. 

Mara tu nikasikia ananiita “shemeji njoo huku tayari”, nikatoka, akaniambia njoo huku chumbani kwangu, nikafika ila nikaishia mlangoni akaniambia ingia shemeji. Nilipoingia nikamkuta amevaa nguo moja fupi ya ajabu …akaniambia ngoja nikuonyesha mambo ninayompa kaka yako.Akaanza kukaa style tofauti tofauti pale kitandani za kusisimua, kweli nilishindwa kumuelewa nikamuuliza shemeji huu ni utani pia au uko serious??.Akaniangalia tu machoni halafu akaendelea.

Nilivyoona vile nilifungua mlango nikatoka. Akaaniita kwa hasira mi nikarudi chumbani kwangu nikalala.
Sasa naona hata aibu kumwangalia shemeji yangu.

8 Relationship Checks All Couples Should Have for a Healthy Love Life

Have you ever talked to your guy, or even just stood in his presence, and had this nagging feeling that something was a little bit off? Call it a sixth sense or an unspoken undercurrent, but sometimes you just know when the train is beginning to run off the tracks. “There aren’t usually flashing red warning lights to tell us when something needs attention,” says LA-based couples therapist Ellen Bradley-Windell. “[We need to] embrace the idea of creating an effective maintenance plan for relationships.”

It’s up to you to gauge the health of your relationship periodically. With that in mind, here are some checkups you should make each time that sixth sense tingles.

Take Your Emotional Temperature

Windell says that the most important question in a relationship is often the simplest: How are we doing? “Every so often, take the ’emotional temperature’ of your relationship. Ask each other, ‘Do you feel like we are treating each other like best friends?’ ‘Are we treating each other with respect?’ ‘Can we communicate openly?’” she says. “If you use this temperature gauge for your relationship, the reward is that you may be picking up the beginning of a problem early, and solve it before it deepens into a bigger issue.” (Bringing up those big topics of conversation helps out in the bedroom, too. 

Ask for What You Need

Marriage and relationship therapist Carin Goldstein says many couples bring complaints to the table instead of instructions. “Very, very often, I will have women say, ‘You’re not paying enough attention to me!’ Men are very specific and concrete, so I always tell them: ‘You need to tell him what that looks like.’” Does he need to hold your hand more in public? Ask more questions about your day? Men aim to please, and they like it when you give them a roadmap to success.

Have Fun Together

While it may not echo the early days of dating exactly, committed coupledom does not mean a lifelong sentence of drudgery and obligations. “Things may be fine day today, but the mood of your relationship may need to be revitalized,” says Windell. “Take time to remind each other about fond memories you have shared together. Ask each other, ‘Are we using our weekends together just taking care of business, or are we setting time aside to have fun and laugh and be silly?’” Keep telling those silly inside jokes that only your guy would get, and carve out quality time. “Make sure you keep the joy and laughter in your relationship, as it will strengthen the bond that you both deserve,” says Windell.

Connect Physically

Goldstein says that one of the most common hiccups in relationships is forgetting to take care of the physical connection. Let’s face it: It’s one of the first things to go when you’re really busy. “I’m not saying, ‘You need to take care of your man,’ or anything like that,” she explains. “But it’s something to be aware of-without physical contact, he can get grumpy. Men connect better emotionally when they’re more connected to their significant other physically.” Goldstein says that if it’s been two weeks and you sense your guy’s a little glum, you can often put two-and-two together-and it’s a pretty simple fix. (Feeling uninspired in the bedroom?

Spend Time Together

Especially when couples are in a transitional phase, or one is traveling a lot, Goldstein says it’s important to have a “sweat equity” checkup. “If one person is shouldering more of the burden at home, it can turn into a prickly dynamic between a couple,” she says, saying women especially can become a little resentful. Oftentimes, the fix is just getting your partner to understand life from your shoes. “We all just want to be seen and heard,” says Goldstein. Again, she says this comes down to being specific. Tell him his absence has you feeling disconnected, and you need more frequent phone calls or date nights-and he’ll likely be on the phone asking about your day at the office, or go to work planning your next Friday night.

Spend Time Apart

Sometimes, couples can get too close, causing one or both parties to feel suffocated and nit-picky. Space is especially important for men, who are wired to connect-and then step out for a moment to reclaim their independence. “That’s how men regenerate,” says Goldstein. “They need to go into the dark cave, and come back-but women often think, ‘Oh no, he doesn’t love me.’” Not the case. If you feel yourselves getting a little antsy and irritated with each other, it’s time schedule healthy, respective girls’ and guys’ nights. “The only time it’s a problem is when it becomes habitual,” Goldstein says. “When it becomes ‘the solution’ to every problem, instead of a timeout to reenter the relationship from a better place.” If it’s just an occasional way to keep your cool? All good!

Try Something New

Ruts. In established relationships, it’s easy to have a routine; you can’t remember your last vacation, every Friday night is takeout/movie/sleep, and you’re growing all-too familiar with your S.O.’s habits. “Put effort into trying something new together,” says Windell. “Join a gym and workout together, learn a new sport together, try a new restaurant once a month, take turns planning a ‘mystery date’ from beginning to end-you get the idea.” Old habits, places, and paths that were once fun and exciting can take a turn into boring, causing your relationship to feel stagnant. Always work to mix it up, says Windell.

Thank Each Other

Keeping your love on track is something that needs to happen everyday, so you don’t have to rebound from an entire season of relationship dissatisfaction. How, exactly? Come with an attitude of gratitude and giving-both verbal and nonverbal. “Loving couples thrive when the relationship is based on reciprocity. Instead of always asking for more, try giving more unconditionally,” Windell says. “Make it a point to thank each other on a daily basis for something that was meaningful to you. Research has shown that we can change the chemistry in our brains to choose happiness in a matter of 21 days-that’s being grateful, having meaningful moments, smiling, writing love notes and positive thinking.” Even a smile or a kiss can show him how much he means…so do the little 

TABIA ZINAZOFANYA WADADA MSIOLEWE MAPEMA


1. CHOKOCHOKO
Wanaume wengi huwa hawapendi chokochoko. Hawapendi mwanamke ambaye yeye kila wakati ni kuanzisha chokochoko ambazo zinazalisha ugomvi.

Wanaume wengi hawapendi mabishano. Hawapendi ugomvi hivyo mwanamke anapokuwa hodari wa kuleta chokochoko, huepukwa.Ni vyema basi mwanamke akachunga kauli. Akawa si mtu wa kuchimbachimba vitu ambavyo havina kichwa wala miguu. Asiwe na kisirani.

Kinywa chake kitawaliwe na maneno matamu, yatakayomtia moyo mpenzi wake, yatakayomfariji na yatakayomfanya apende kuzungumza naye.

Mara nyingi mwanaume akiona mke au mpenziwe ni mtu wa kupenda chokochoko, mara nyingi humuepuka. Anajitahidi kadiri ya uwezo wake kukaa naye mbali.

Ataona ni bora achelewe kurudi nyumbani akakutane na marafiki baa, wapige stori ili muda uende na akirudi nyumbani asiwe na muda wa kuzungumza na mwenzi wake, yeye ni kula na kulala.

2. KUTORIDHIKA
Wanaume wengi wanachukia kuwa na wanawake wasioridhika. Baadhi ya wanawake hata uwape nini huwa hawaridhiki. Wanawasumbua wapenzi wao kwamba hawawatimizii mahitaji.

Mwanaume anajitoa kumpa zawadi mpenzi wake, haridhiki tu.Anaanza kuikosoa. Anasema haifanani na yeye, eti si ya hadhi yake. Akipewa fedha anasema hazitoshi. Kila siku ni malalamiko. Hampi nafasi mpenzi wake ya kufurahia uhusiano wao.

 Anamfanya kila anapokutana naye awaze atapigwa mzinga.Bahati mbaya sasa kila atakachopewa haridhiki. Anatamani kikubwa zaidi. Wanaume wengi siku hizi wanaichukia tabia hiyo.

Hawapendi kuwa na mwanamke ambaye haridhiki na kile kidogo walichojaliwa. Wanaume wengi wakiona hivyo huwa wanaanza kumuepuka mwanamke wa ‘sampuli’ hiyo.

Kwake kunakuwa hakuna jema. Badala ya kumshauri mpenzi wake mbinu za kujikwamua kiuchumi yeye ni lawama tu. Kila siku analalamika kwamba wanaume wengine wanawapa wapenzi wao mahitaji muhimu lakini wa kwake hamtimizii.

Mwanaume akiona kila analofanya kwa mpenzi au mkewe haridhiki, hatoi shukurani ni rahisi kupunguza mapenzi kwa mtu wake. Taratibu anaanza kujitoa na hata kuhamishia mapenzi kwa mtu mwingine ambaye atakuwa anaridhika kwa kidogo anachopewa. Ni muhimu kuridhika.

3. KULINGANISHA
Hii nayo ni tabia isiyopendwa na wanaume wengi. Wanaume wanapenda kuishi maisha yao.

Wanapenda kuheshimiwa na wapenzi wao. Wanapenda kumsikia mwanamke akisema; ‘hakuna mwanaume mwingine wa kufanana na wewe.’

Mwanaume anapenda kuhakikishiwa kwamba hakuna mwanaume mwingine kama yeye. Yeye ndiye mzuri au bora kuliko wanaume wengine hivyo mwanamke anapoanza kuonesha tabia za kumlimnganisha na mwanaume mwingine linakuwa tatizo kubwa.Mwanaume anakasirika.

Anaona ni rahisi mwanamke wake kumtamani mtu mwingine baki kuliko yeye. Sifa anazozitoa kwa mwanaume mwingine ni nzuri hivyo zinamvutia.

Kama zinamvutia siku yoyote anaweza kushawishika kumfuata yule anayemvutia.Wanawake wanapaswa kuwa makini katika eneo hilo. Hata kama umeona kuna kitu kizuri kimekuvutia kutoka kwa mwanaume mwingine, kamwe usije kumwambia mwenzi wako. Baki nalo moyoni. Jipe moyo kwamba mwanaume uliyenaye ndiye bora kuliko wanaume wote duniani.

4. KUWA TEGEMEZI
Wakati mwingine hata kama huna kitu lakini mwanamke unashauriwa kutojionesha huna kitu. Jioneshe kwamba una kitu hata kama huna. Wanaume wa sasa hawapendi kuwa na mwanamke ambaye kila kitu anategemea kutoka kwa mwanaume.

Hata kama huna kazi lakini ni vyema basi mwanamke akajaribu kufanya biashara ndogondogo ambazo zitampunguzia mwanaume wake makali ya kuombwa fedha kila wakati. Wanaume wanapenda kuwapa wapenzi wao fedha lakini inapozidi kipimo inageuka kuwa kero.Yani kuanzia mahitaji ya kila siku, saluni, mavazi, ada ya watoto na mengine mengi mwanamke anamtegemea mwanaume.

Yeye hataki kujishughulisha hata kidogo. Anataka aletewe, kazi yake kubwa ni kulea familia nyumbani.Mwanaume akigundua mwanamke ni tegemezi mkiwa katika hatua za mwanzoni, ni rahisi kumkimbia mwanamke na kwenda kwa mwanamke ambaye angalau atakuwa hamtegemei kwa kila kitu. Mwanamke anayejiongeza hata kwa kutoa wazo la kuanzishiwa biashara ambayo itamfanya asiwe tegemezi.


5. KUTOKUA MUELEWA
Mwanaume anapenda mwanamke muelewa. Hapendi mwanamke mbishi.

Anatamani kuwa na mwanamke ambaye akimueleza kitu, anajiongeza na kufanya zaidi ya pale mwanaume alipofikiria. Mwanaume anapenda mwanamke atakayeanzisha wazo la kimaendeleo na kumshirikisha mpenzi wake ili walifanye.

Wanaume wanapenda wanawake wanaowaelewa. Kama mwanamke anakuwa si wa kumuelewa mpenzi wake, kumsaidia basi mara nyingi mwanaume humkimbia.


6. KUJITAPA KWA KUWA NACHO
Hakuna mwanaume anayependa kutawaliwa. Wanawake wenye fedha mara nyingi wanakuwa na tabia ya kutaka kuwatawala wanaume. Anataka mwanaume afanye kile ambacho yeye anataka.

Fedha zinamvimbisha kichwa na kuona kwamba anaweza kuwa na mamlaka ya kumuamrisha mumewe.Anatumia fedha zake kama fimbo ya kumchapia mpenzi wake.

Ni vigumu sana wanaume kumvumilia mwanamke wa aina hiyo, mara nyingi wanajiepusha naye. Kwa kutumia fedha zake anaweza kupata mwanaume mwingine lakini pia watashindwana katika suala la kumtawala.


7. KUWA BIZE SANA
Wanaume wengi hawapendi mwanamke tegemezi lakini pia wanaume haohao wanachukia mwanamke akiwa bize sana na kazi zake.

Mwanaume hapendi kuona mwenzi wake anakuwa bize na kazi au biashara zake kiasi ambacho kitamfanya hata akose muda na mwenzi wake.Unachotakiwa kufanya hapo mwanamke ni kujigawa.

Hakikisha unakuwa bize na kazi lakini si ya kupitiliza maana itamfanya mwanaume akose muda wa kuwa na wewe pale anapokuhitaji, badala yake anaweza kwenda kwa mwanamke mwingine ambaye hayupo bize.

Have an Amazing Orgasm: Eat Right for a Bigger O!

A bigger O could be a few bites away. Incorporate these healthy foods into your diet for a crazy-good climax

There’s a reason why romantic dates often involve wining and dining, says dietician Torey Jones Armul: “Eating causes the release of oxytocin, which is associated with feelings of pleasure. The act of eating, like a massage, is intended to feel good.”

But what you eat can amplify that pleasurable effect-and we’re not talking chocolate and champagne. Two brain chemicals, dopamine and serotonin, are strongly linked to pleasure, satisfaction, and mood. In fact, low dopamine levels can lead to a low sex drive. Fortunately, proteins found in beans, nuts, and poultry, as well as the amino acid tyrosine, found in bananas, avocados, and almonds, all help your body maintain it’s dopamine levels, says Armul. And eating folate- and B-vitamin-rich food like leafy greens, chickpeas, fish, and fruits and vegetables, can keep your levels of feel-good serotonin high too.

As for traditional aphrodisiacs like chocolates and oysters? There’s not much scientific support to back them up, says Armul. However, studies have linked both moderate red wine consumption and an apple-a-day habit to improved sexual function. And while they haven’t necessarily been linked directly to orgasm, antioxidant-rich foods like beets, cherries, and oranges can improve vasodilation (the opening of veins for blood flow)-which could improve arousal, and in turn, strengthen your orgasm.

And, of course, eating well and taking care of your body can help you feel comfortable in your own skin-which can mean lowered inhibitions (and more pleasure) in the bedroom. “Valuing your body and what it can do for you, rather than it’s appearance, leads to self acceptance,” says Armul. “And that leads to sexual confidence and satisfaction.”

SABABU 4 ZA KUOA/KUOLEWA NA KUISHI MAISHA YA FURAHA BAADA YA NDOA

Kama upo katika uhusiano wa muda mrefu kwa sasa na unajiuliza kwamba kweli unaweza kuuvaa huu wajibu mpya wa kuishi na mtu maisha yako yote kwa kitu kinachoitwa ndoa, zifuatazo ni sababu 4 za kuingia katika ndoa ambazo unapaswa uzizingatie. Kama utazitafakari kwa makini hizi sababu, utaelewa upande mzuri wa ndoa na utajua kama upo tayari au la!.

#1 Ni ahadi kubwa sana. Hakuna uthibitisho mkubwa wa upendo kama kumuuliza mpenzi wako kama mnataka muoane. Usiiangalie ndoa kama vile kofuli lisilokuwa na ufunguo. Ione ndoa kama mojawapo ya njia unayoweza kuweka ahadi yako kubwa kwa mpenzi wako kama ishara ya upendo

#2 Una share maisha yako na mwingine. Sisi kama binadamu tumeumbwa kama kiumbe ambacho tunaweza kuingiliana na kushirikiana kwa pamoja katika jamii. Kuishi maisha ya peke yako inaweza ikaonekana kuwa nzuri kwa mwanzoni, lakini inafika wakati, kila mmoja wetu anajisikia kuhitaji mtu mwingine atakayekua anamuangalia, na kuwa na mtu mwingine ambaye unaweza ku shea nae furaha na matukio ya huzuni pia

.#3 Umesha enjoy sana maisha ya kuwa peke yako. Unakumbuka kipindi una miaka ya ujana na kipindi wewe upo single ulivyokua? Na sasa umebadilika, na hii itakuonesha kuwa maisha yamebadilika na umekuwa mtu wa tofauti, na unahitaji kuwa na mtu wa kushirikiana nae maishani, na si tu wakulala nae usiku.

#4 Hatua za maisha. Kama nilivyosema hapo awali, maisha ni mchezo wa hatua. Na kama umejiandaa kiakili na kimwili na kisaikolojia kuingia hatua nyingine, mawazo yako na akili yako yatakushawishi kuingia katika hatua hiyo inayofuata kwa kukuonesha faida zake.

Na ndoa ni hatua muhimu sana katika maisha. Kama kweli unampenda mtu, jitwike hilijukumu. Utajipatia uzoefu mpya wa maisha ambao haukuuzoea na inaweza kukusaidia kuendeleza maisha

The benefits of sleeping next to the one you love

1. You get to share warmth.

2. The most intimate and personal conversations happen in bed, head on pillow. You two will get to know each other deepest there.

3. People are most real in bed. No make up, no trying to look polished for the world. In bed, everything is raw and vulnerable, you see each other for who you really are.

4. It makes you two reconcile quicker. It is difficult to share a bed with someone you are angry with, you make up faster because you share a bed.

5. It is wonderful that the one you love is the last visual you have before you close your eyes to sleep, and the first you see when you wake up.

6. It is a sign of trust. You trust your spouse and that’s why you can close your eyes and feel safe in the privacy of your bedroom.

7. In case of nightmares, you can kiss and comfort each other with a cuddle. In case of sweet dreams, you can narrate it as you kiss.

8. Making love to your spouse is made simple and easily accessible, your spouse is within reach.

9. One of the most amazing view is to see the one you love sleeping.

10. A warm marital bed means the entire home will reflect the warmth. Sleeping on the same bed builds the love you have for each other.

11. When the bed at home is warm and peaceful, the temptation to share a bed outside with another or to be unfaithful is non-existent.

12. A wise lady never chases her hubby from the bed when she is mad at him, she knows that the more he is pushed away from their bed, the further they grow apart.

13. A wise man always makes sure the bed is a haven of intimacy and love for his wife. For if it is not well for her in bed, nothing will be well. If her head lays on the pillow hurting and she struggles to sleep, the whole house will be dull. A loved up wife brightens the home.

14. The most kissing between couples happens in bed. Kissing is good for your love.

15. No matter how cozy a bed is, it becomes special because you share it with the one you love; whether that bed is the one at home, or the one you two get to sleep on in a hotel when on a holiday or vacation.

MANENO MATAMU YA KUMWAMBIA MWANAUME NA KUUTEKA MOYO WAKE

Kunong’onezana maneno yalio na mvuto au kuandikiana barua  kutuma kwa umpendae, yamepitwa na wakati kwa kizazi hiki, mwanzo vitu hivyo vilikuwa vinaleta mapenzi na hisia za ndani kwa kila mtu.

Siku za leo, tuna njia nyingine , bila shaka  unaweza kuwa bado unatuma  barua na kunong’ona kwa mwanaume  kwa maneno matamu  kwenye sikio lake.

Hata hivyo kwa sasa  unaweza kutuma ujumbe  kwa kumemail au kwa ujumbe wa kawaida.Hata hivyo , tangu imekuwa na urahisi wa kuwasiliana, kwa nini usijifunze maneno matamu  na ujaribu  kumtoa katika hali ya huzuni na kumpeleka katika ulimwengu mwingine kwa  kuondoa migomo.?

Kwa njia hio,  kama unapenda kujifunza  jinsi ya kuongea hayo maneno na kuugeuza moyo wake, kujenga muungiliano na utulivu na kutunza mawazo yake akiwa kazini  akiwa anakuwazia wewe, kwa hio unahitaji kuangalia  mbinu zaidi  kutoka kwenye makala hii.Lakini kama maongezi matamu ni zaidi ya mtindo wako,- angalia mtiririko huu wa mambo matamu  ya kusema kwa boyfriend, kwa vyote kwa upya na mahusiano ya muda.

INAHUSU MAHUSIANO YA MUDA MREFU.

1.Natamani ungekuwepo muda huu  sasa hivi.

Sentensi  hii inamfanya  mume wako aone ni jinsi gani umemmisi. Zaidi ya yote, kila mmoja anahitaji kuona anahitajika kwa mwenzake.

ni neno zuri, hata hivyo,  unaweza kuwa umesema au umetuma ujumbe kwake mara nyingi, kwa kuwa usionekane wewe ni mwepesi, ujumbe huu unahitajika kwa wale ambao wamekuwa kwenye mahusiano ya muda mrefu. Majukumu ya mahusiano.

2.Walisema mapenzi haya hutokea mara moja, lakini sikuamini mpaka muda niliposikia nimekupenda sana.Ujumbe huu unaonyesha hisia za ndani kwamba umemweka moyoni mwako mumewe.

3.Ninapokuangalia machoni naona njia ya ulimwengu ninaotaka niwepo.Ujumbe huu mfupi ni wa ndani sana,hata hivyo unahitaji kuutumia  pengine boyfriend wako  angekushukuru, kwa mfano  inaweza kuwa ni ujumbe mahususi kabisa hasa pale mnapokuwa  mmeanzana  tu. lakini kama mko kwenye mahusiano ya muda mrefu ni sawia kabisa. Kwa msaada zaidi  jinsi ya kumridhisha mume kitandani , fuatilia makala zangu.

4.Kama nimepata raha maisha yangu, kitu kimoja tu ningetaka kukibadilisha  kuwa ningekuwa nimekutana nawe tangu zamani.Huu ujumbe mtamu,  kwa mume wako kwa kuwasiliana ni ujumbe wa hisia za ndani sana, kwamba unajilaumu kuwa hukuweza kukutana nae mapema.

5.Mara zote unajua kunifanya nitabasamu, hata wakati nimehuzunika.Mawasiliano mazuri ni  urafiki wa kimapenzi, wa fikra zinazifikirika za maisha yote ya hali ya chini na ya juu, kwa hio kama wewe unamtegemea mume wako tu kukufanya uwe na furaha wakati unapopatwa na shida, na wewe fanya vilevile kwake, hii inaonyesha kujali, mahusiano ya upendo, mawasiliano kama haya humfanya mwanamume afahamu kuwa unafanya kitu cha uhakika  kwamba unamfanya ajisikie vyema.

6.Hakuna mwanaume duniani anaweza kunielewa vizuri kama unavyonielewa  wewe. Nahisi kukukumbatia kila wakati ninapoomgea na wewe.Mahusiano mazuri huhitaji uaminifu na ukweli, na uwazi wa mawasiliano, kwa hio kama unaweza kusema haya  kwake utamfanya ajisikie kuthaminiwa   na inshara ya mahusiano bora.

7.Najisikia salama na amani ninapokuwa  karibu yako.Mwanaume anapenda kusikia ujumbe huu, kama mwanaumme hupenda kujulikana kuwa wao ni walinzi  wa familia. Kwa kufahamu kwamba unalitammbua na kuliona hilo, na hii inakuja kama uliwahi kuumizwa hapo mwanzo , na sasa unapata ulinzi wa kutosha ,  kama hii ni kweli basi  utamfanya ajisikie kuwa mshindi.

8.Nafurahia urafiki wako zaidi kuliko mtu yeyote humu duniani.Wakati wanandoa wanapoingia kwenye mahusiano yenyewe,  huanza na  kombania ya urafiki kwanza , kwa hio huu ujumbe , au maneno haya  ni hatua kubwa sana katika mahusiano.Utapata mbinu zaidi kwenye  makala nyingine jinsi ya kumtimizia mume mahitaji yake.

9.Siwezi kufikiria maisha yangu bila wewe.Pindi maisha ya watu wawili yanapounganishwa, inakuwa ngumu kwa kila mmoja  kufikiri  maisha yao bila ya nusu yake hii ni hatua ya kweli katika maisha ya mahusiano, kwa hio kuwasiliana kwa namna hii utamfanya mume wako ajisikie kupendwa.

10.Marafiki zangu wananionea gere kuwa na wewe.Itaonyesha maumivu mwanaume kusikia hivyo, kwamba kuna watu wanakuonea wivu  kuwa kwenye mahusiano na wewe, basi haya ni maneno mazuri ,  ujumbe mtamu, na utakuwa umefikisha  mahali pake.

11.Sifahamu umeniwekaje , lakini nina furahi  umefanya hivyo.Kusema kwa namna hii , na kwa kuwa unafahamu kuwa ni ilikuwa ni vigumu kukupata  kwa muda mrefu alihangaika juu yako. Na hii ni meseji nzuri sana  ya kumtumia  na kumkumbusha jinsi gani aliweza kukupata.

12.Ni moyo wangu pekee unaweza kukuambia jinsi ninavyokupenda, maneno yangu hayatoshi.Hii ni kweli , katika mahusiano  hakuna njia ya  maneno pekee yanayoonyesha upendo kwa mume au mke, bali ni vitendo vya mtu na moyo wa mtu. Kwa hio jinsi unavyojisikia kwa mumeo  , atajiona ni mtu mkubwa sana.

INAHUSU HASA WALE WENYE MAHUSIANO MAPYA.13.Wewe ni mpole unapokuwa na mimi.Kusema haya maneno matamu kwa boyfriend wako  unasevu makusudi mawili. La kwanza kabisa  linamwambia mwanaume jinsi gani unamkubali, na uchivalrous wake mnapokuwa wote mnatembea mtaani. Na pili  linamwambia  kuwa unahitaji aendelee na huo upole wake na uchivalrous wake

14.Wewe ni mwanaume mwenye akili, Unafahamu vitu vingi sana.Haiwezi kuumiza mshituko  wa nafsi ya mtu wako kidogo. Hata hivyo kila mtu anahitaji kuheshimiwa na kupendwa,  kwa hio ,  hili nalo ni tamu unaweza kulitumia  hata kama mahusiano yenu ni bado mapya sana.

15.Nilikuwa na siku mbaya , lakini  nilipokufikiria  mara  ulimwengu wangu ukawa tofauti.Hii ni sentesi rahisi sana kama ni sentensi ya kweli kutoka kwako,  kwa hio ni kitu  ambacho boyfriend wako atapenda kusikia kutoka kwako na ataikubali.

16.Sijawahi kukutana na mwanaume  kabambe na mwenye maamui  kuliko wewe..Na hii ni nyingine yenye kugusa kumoyo wa mwanaume, na maneno matamu , hilo ni wazo la mahusiano mapya.

17.Wewe ni zaidi ya mwanaume sijawahi kukutana nae.Na huu ni ujumbe rahisi sana ,  unawakilisha jinsi  gani unamkubali mtoto wa kiume huyo, zaidi ya wanaume wengi,  ingwa sio wote hupenda kuwa kama wewe  na kuwa na ubinadamu . kwa hio haya maneno ni matamu  na ya uhakika  kumfanya mtu wako kujisikia ni wa pekee.

18.I can’t wait to see you  tena.Hii  ni sentensi rahisi kusema,  bado ni ujumbe mtamu wa kuwasilisha  jinsi gani unamkubali  mtu wako huyo, na kwamba unaangalia mbele kwa ajili ya kuwa pamoja nae kwa kipindi chote  maisha na huyo mtu wako. Katika mahusiano mapya , hii pia inaonyesha hamu ya kuendelea kukuza  mahusiano.

Benefits of taking a Shower/Bath with your spouse

. Some of the most intimate conversations happen in the shower or bath tub.

2. It makes you two relax. The more relaxing things you do, the more comfortable you two will be with each other, the deeper your love.

3. You two can get to make love, thereby spicing up your sex life.

4. You get to study each other’s body and praise it. This is especially important for the woman because she can easily be conscious about her body. When she is free enough to be naked with her hubby even when they are not making love, it will make her feel more attractive. It shouldn’t be that the only time your spouse sees you naked is during sex.

5. You get to wash each other’s hard to reach places.

6. It is a perfect set-up for kissing.

7. You get to focus on each other.

8. You get to learn to take care of each other. Scrubbing each other, soaping each other, rinsing each other, drying each other with a towel.

9. After the shower or bath you get to oil each other. The skin loves to be touched. People whose skin gets to be massaged and touched by hands of love smile more, glow more and feel good through out the day. If you notice your spouse is moody or irritable, your spouse is under-touched. Give him/her some touch sensations.

JIZUIE KUFIKA KILELENI MAPEMA KWA NJIA HIZI RAHISI

Sababu ya tatizo hili huweza kuwa ya Kibaiolojia na Kiakili. Kama wewe pia ni moja yao na unapenda kujua jinsi ya zuia hali hii, endelea kusoma.


Kufanya mazoezi:
Mwili wenye afya nzuri daima hufanya kazi vizuri, kwahiyo kitu rahisi cha kufanya ni kujenga tabia ya kufanya mazoezi ambayo husaidia kukujengea afya njema na kukupa mzunguko mzuri wa damu. Kama una mwili wenye afya basi inaweza kukusaidia kwa namna ya kifikra ambazo huchangia kwenye swala zima la kuwahi kufika kileleni. Hii hutokana na kuongeza kujiamini na kujihusudu.

Pumua vizuri na kikamilifu: Kiungo chochote cha mwili huhitaji nguvu kamili ili kufanya kazi na ndivyo ilivyo kwa habari ya viungo vya uzazi! Unapo pumua vizuri na kwa ukamilifu, kiungo hiki hupata nguvu za ziada. Mbinu mbalimbali za kupumua kama pranayama hujajwa kusaidia sana kujifunza jinsi ya kuzuia kufika kileleni  mapema. Baada ya kuinza tu (wakati wa tendo), jaribu kupumua kwa ufasaha ili mwili uweze kupata hisia kabla ya kuanza kufanya msuguano

Mshirikishe mwenzako kikamilifu: Kuridhika kimapenzi ni tukio ambalo wote wawili mnaridhika kikamilifu. Ili kujifunza kujizuia kufika kileleni haraka, ni vizuri kuwasiliana na mwenzi wako wa kimapenzi. Anaweza akakusaidia kushinda tatizo hili la kiaibu, kila unapohisi unataka kukojoa mapema, sema ‘ngoja’ na usitishe kwanza shughuli zote kwa muda kidogo.


Maandalizi kifikra: Pia kabla ya kwenda kuanza tendo kwa mfano upo ofisini na unajua jioni unakwenda kufanya sex, basi jitahidi usiwaze hayo mambo chukulia kama ni kitu cha kawaida. Hii ni kwa sababu kuongeza concentration ya kuwaza ngono inaongeza stimulation kiasi kwamba ukimgusa mpenzi wako tayari umekwishaachia hata kabla ya kuingiza.


Angalia movie: Kuangalia  style zenye kuchochea kufika kileleni haraka …. etc hii ni ngumu kujizuia kukojoa hasa kwa bao la kwanza maana panakuwepo na constriction ya hali ya juu very tighten kiasi kwamba ukigusa tu tayari ..so ni vizuri style kama hizi zikafuata baada ya bao la kwanza ili uweze ku-enjoy vizuri zaidi.


Mazoezi ya kubana mkojo: Fanya mazoezi ya kukojoa na kubana mkojo mara kwa mara… hii ina maana kuwa unapokojoa mkojo unaachia then unakatiza unaendelea tena alafu unakatiza tena . Fanya mara tatu kila unapokwenda kukojoa. Hii ni muhimu kwa ajili ya kuongeza strength ya misuli ya uume na kupunguza relaxation yake … njia hii imewasaidia wengi na wamepona kabisa

Possible reasons you keep falling for the wrong men

Dear lady, you see yourself as a good woman but you wonder why you keep attracting the wrong men. Below could be possible reasons why

1. “You go to the wrong places”

Good men will be found in specific places. You are your environment, are you looking for a husband material man in places that are not for men serious about their future?

2. “You don’t know what you want”

When you don’t know the kind of family you want in future and the man suitable for that future, you will fall for any man, most often, the wrong men because the right men know what they want and want a woman that knows what she wants.

3. “You know what you want but you betray yourself”

Perhaps you know the qualities you want in a man but you compromise on qualities that you must not. You justify yourself when you choose wrong men convincing yourself you will change him.

4. “You say yes too easily”

You quickly say yes to the first man who shows interest in you. Your heart is too precious why do you give it on first come first serve basis? Why do you take the easy route and fall for the easy casual way yet your love is precious and hard to find?

5. “You don’t involve God”

You pray to God to give you a good man but you rebel against God in the process. You don’t do it God’s way then you blame God when things don’t work out.

6. “You are not objective”

Lady, do you get caught up in the excitement, feelings and charm of a man that you forget to use your head?

7. “You are superficial”

Cars, houses, fame, titles; are these the things that blind you? Many women have fallen for the extravagance of wrong men out to use them. A good man is known by his heart and character, then the material things come after.

8. “You repel good men”

Perhaps you have been so used to being mistreated, so used to being taken for granted that you see yourself as unworthy of good love. You run away from good men because you fear a real fruitful relationship.

9. “You rush things”

Or maybe you rush into love so fast that you end up crashing only to hurt yourself. Wrong men will take advantage of this. Don’t be desperate.

10. “You don’t possess the qualities you look for”

Are you attractive to the kind of man you want to attract? If you expect a good man, present yourself as a woman complimenting that good man.

11. “You ignore the red flags”

You see things that warn you the man is not good for you but you ignore and walk straight into fire.

12. “You get misled by sex”

Lady, when you have sex you will get emotionally attached to the point that you will cling to the man even if he is wrong for you. Be careful with sex, it can make you keep yourself in darkness.

13. “You commit without commitment”

You conclude too quickly that this is love, so you build a future alone with a wrong man who is not interested in a future with you.

14. “You are datable but not wife material”

Yes, you are beautiful, sexy, fun; but to some men, they will pass time with you but not commit to building a family future with you.

15. “You hang around the wrong friends”

You are the company you keep. A man will judge by the company you keep.

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