Tendo la ndoa au ngono ndilo tendo la furaha lililo kuu kwa binadamu. Wakati tendo hilo kwa wanyama lipo kwa ajili ya kuzaa,kwa upande wa binadamu ni zaidi ya kuzaa.Mapenzi au tendo la ndoa ni sanaa hivyo inatakiwa ufundi na ubunifu ili kuweza kufurahia tendo hili.

Zifuatazo ni baadhi ya sehemu zinazompa mwanamke raha na kama mwanaume atazishughuhulikia ipasavyo basi bila shaka mtafurahia vyema tendo la ndoa.

MIDOMO

Tumia midomo yako, ulimi wako na meno yako kuchezea mdomo wake wa juu na wa chini na umbusu kwa msisimko mkubwa. Kunyonya ulimi pia huchangia kuongeza kasi ya mwanamke kwenda kileleni. (usafi wa kinywa kwa wote wawili ni muhimu).
UKE NA KINEMBE

Tumia kidole chako cha kwanza cha mkono wa kulia polepole pitisha katika mfereji wa uke ukianzia chini (kutokea kwenye ——) ukipandisha juu, fanya hivyo mara kadhaa kutegemea umbo lako na urefu, unaweza kuchanganya zoezi hili na kunyonya matiti yake na hapo utaona upumuaji wake ukibadilika na maji maji yakiongezeka kwenye uke.

Kwa kawaida kinembe cha mwanamke kimejificha lakini ukifanya vizuri zoezi la hapo juu na chenyewe kama uume kitajaa damu na kuinuka. Kinembe kipo juu kabisa ya mfereji wa uke na kina ukubwa wa harage au kwa wanawake wengine huwa kidogo zaidi. Tumia kidole chako cha kwanza na taratibu zungusha zungusha kidole juu ya kinembe, pandisha na kushusha kidole chako na hapo unaweza kumfikisha kwenye kilele cha utamu wa mapenzi hata kabla ya hujaiingiza uume.

Wanawake wengi watafurahia ukitumia uume wako uliosimama vizuri kupigapiga eneo la kinembe na hii huufanya uume kuwa wa moto na unapomwingilia joto la uume wako litafanya raha ya tendo hili kuwa kubwa zaidi. Kinembe ndio sehemu ambayo kwa asilima 80 huhusika na kazi ya kumfikisha mwanamke kileleni na kwa kuwa kinembe kiko mbali kidogo toka kwenye tundu la uke, sio rahisi kwa uume kukifikia kinembe, hivyo mwanaume anatakiwa ajisukume kwa makusudi kabisa kwenda mbele ili shina la uume lisugue kinembe wakati wa kuingia na kutoka kwa uume.

MATIT

Matiti ni sehemu muhimu sana kwa mwanamke kama ilivyo kwa uke. Utampatia raha kamili mwanamke kama utayapapasa papasa matiti yake utayaminyaminya kwa upole wa kimahaba, utayalambalamba na kuyanyonya.

MASIKIO

Wanawake wengi hupata burudani masikio yao yanapolambwa au kunyonywa au kupigwa busu.
SEHEMU YA NYUMA YA SHINGO

Tumia ulimi wako kulamba sehemu ya shingo yake kwa mwendo wa kutekenya tekenya.Tumia ncha ya ulimi kutekenya tekenya kwa kufanya mduara na kuendelea kuchora mduara na kurudiarudia.

SEHEMU YA NYUMA YA GOTI

Sehemu ya nyuma ya goti ina miishio mingi ya mishipa ya fahamu na utashangaa jinsi ambavyo mwanamke atapata burudani kwa kuishughulikia vyema sehemu hii.

SEHEMU YA NDANI YA MAPAJATumia ubapa wa kiganja chako kupapasa kwa ulaini sehemu ya ndani ya mapaja yake, fanya hivyo juu juu huku ukimbusu busu mapaja yake.

MAKALIO

Wanawake wengi wanapenda makalio yao yachezewe kimahaba. Anza kwa kuyapapasa papasa, endelea kwa kuyaminya minya kwa kutumia vidole.

MIISHO

Miguu yake imejaa miishio ya mishipa ya fahamu kiasi ambacho baadhi ya wanawake wanaweza kufika katika kilele cha burudani ya tendo la ndoa kwa miguu yao kusuguliwa na kupapaswa.

USO

Mwanamke atafurahi sana utakaposhika uso wake katika hali ya mahaba na huku ukitabasamu. Wakati ukifanya hivyo unaweza kumbusu midomo yake, mashavu na kwenye paji la uso.

HIPS

Sehemu hii ni moja ya sehemu ambazo zitamfanya mwanamke ajisikie amekubalika kabisa iwapo utashika wakati wa tendo la ndoa.

KIPELE G

Sehemu hii iko ndani ya uke ambayo inapata hisia kubwa sana ikibonyezwa bonyezwa. Sehemu hii ipo sentimeta 5 kutoka mlango wa uke na iko katika ukuta wa juu wa uke. Sehemu hii ikibonyezwa na kuchezewa ipasavyo mwanamke anaweza akapizi mara mbili au zaidi kwa wakati mmoja.

Hii ni njia rahisi ya kumfikisha 
mwanamke kileleni. Mwanaume aingize kidole kwenye uke na kubonyeza na kusugua sehemu ya juu ya uke, sehemu hii imekaa kama sponji na huwa ngumu kwa kadiri inavyobonyezwa.
Mwanamke anawezakujisikia kama anataka kukojoa kabisa na hawezi kukojoa ila raha atakayopata ni kubwa sana

Take your time to kiss and lick his inner thigh before going to touch his penis when performing oral. Tease him and experiment with your lips. You can go from light fluttering kisses to harder sucking.

Hair

While kissing, try running the tips of your fingers through his hair, over his scalp gently, then a bit harder with a tug. This playful tease with drive him legit cray.

The Prostate

Run a lubricated finger around his anus to begin. This stimulation by itself may be enough for him, but if he’s down for more, once the muscles have had a chance to relax, insert your index finger about two inches inside—where you should be able to feel his prostate.

Toes

During sexy foreplay, move your kisses teasingly down his body until you’re all the way down at his feet. Suck on your partner’s toes—or even lick the bottom of their foot arch.

Butt Cheek

If your boy is open to a little spank-y play, this is great to do while he’s on top of you in any variation of missionary. Squeeze his booty when he’s hitting just the right spot or give him a quick spank if you’re both into it.

Bottom Lips

Nibble the bottom lips and possibly even going for a harder bite (if they seem receptive to it).

The Seam of His Testicles

Cradle his balls in one hand while gently pressing the first two fingertips of your other hand into the top of the crease (close to where the testicles connect to the base of his penis). Then trace downward with your fingers until you reach the bottom of his scrotum. But don’t forget to be gentle!

His Earlobes

Kissing your partner across his shoulder, up his neck, and stopping right before you hit his ear. Do this to both sides, because asymmetry is for the lazy. When he’s right about to lose it, start kissing his earlobe, and use your tongue to bring his earlobe into your mouth. Play around with gentle nibbles, tongue, etc. Be careful not to touch any other part of his body while doing this, and see how wild he gets from you just touching his earlobes.

The Head of His Penis

Give him a lipstick blow job—aka where you brush your closed but relaxed lips against the head of his penis, like you’re applying lipstick. Hold his shaft with your fingers, but not in a fist (avoid holding his penis like a microphone but do approach it with the same blind confidence of a mediocre stand-up act).

The Front of His Neck

Give him a throat job—no, not like that, (you can re-hinge your jaw now.) Have him lie on his back and literally just suck his Adam’s apple. Keep your tongue flat and light, not too much pressure! Massage the area with wide circular motions to ensure you’re hitting that T-spot of the thyroid.

Those V-Lines

Have him lay on his back while you straddle him and give him what he really wants: a view of your scalp as you make your way down on him. Starting from his belly button, use your fingers and nails to trace a line down from his happy trail stopping before you hit total groin. Then retrace your steps but use your tongue to trace a V shape from his hips to right above his penis. Draw it out and really tease him until he can’t take it any longer.

His Nipples

Britton suggests having him lie on his back and slowly licking from his areola inward, like an ice-cream cone but never touching tongue to nip. Get closer and closer until you flick his nipple with your tongue and then gently bite it. If you wanna be really extra, you can suck on an ice cube beforehand for more sensation.

His Frenulum

Hold his penis steady with one hand while really giving his crown your all. Each time you circle your tongue around to his frenulum, flick it a few times with your tongue stiffened, and then relax and go back to licking the crown.

Ndoa ni muunganiko wa watu wawili wenye nia ya kuishi pamoja kwa maisha yao yote.

Pia ni muungano wenye malengo ya kujenga familia pamoja na kuiongoza kwa namna ambavyo itakuwa bora kwao kwa mapenzi ya Mwenyezi Mungu.

Hata biblia inasema “Ndoa ni muunganiko wa mwanaume na mwanamke kuwa mwili mmoja ikiwa kwa mtazamo wa nje tunawaona wao ni wawili” (Mwanzo 2:24).

Kwa ujumla Ndoa ina maana zifuatazo;
Ndoa, ni kujitoa muanga kumpokea mwenza wako wa ndoa katika maisha ya aina yoyote yale, ya taabu na raha, na kila ndoa ina taabu zake na pia ina raha zake, hili halikwepeki.

Ndoa, ni maisha ya kuvumiliana na kuchukuliana msalaba, katika mtazamo wa kikristu ninaweza sema, mume anakubali kubeba msalaba wa mke wake na mke anakubali kubeba msalaba wa mume wake kila siku za maisha yao.

Ndoa, ni kujitoa kumpenda mwenza wako siku zote za maisha yako na kuweka moyo wako kwake na kila siku lazima ujiulize nimefanya jambo zuri kwa mume au mke wangu.Ndoa, ni kuishi maisha ya kushirikiana na kusaidiana kwa kila jambo, hakuna jambo dogo au kubwa katika ndoa, kila jambo lina umuhimu katika ndoa.

Ndoa ni maisha ya kuheshimiana na kujaliana hisia. Maisha ya ndoa ya vitendo zaidi kuliko maneno, hivyo lazima kujifunza kusoma ishara na kutambua kile mwenza wako anachomaanisha hata kabla hajasema. Kwa sababu siyo kila wakati mwenza wako ataongea na wewe kwa maneno muda mwingine atatumia lugha ya ishara na vitendo.

Ndoa ni kuungana, ndoa siyo “part-time” leo upo na mume wako kesho na mtu mwingine au mwanaume mwingine, ndoa ni kukubali kufarijiawa na mwenza wako wa ndoa kwa kila jambo.

Ndoa, ni maisha Mapya ya kutimiza wajibu wa ndoa, wajibu wa familia na wajibu wa muunganiko na hili siyo kadili unavyotaka bali ni wajibu wa lazima, kama huna uhakika, isijaribu kucheza na ndoa.

Ndoa siyo majaribio ya kuangalia kama unaweza kuishi na mwanaume au mwanamke mmoja, ndoa ni maisha ya kujitoa kikamilifu bila kujibakisha na kuunganika na mwenza wako kimawazo, kihisia, kimahaba, kimapenzi na zaidi ya yote katika upendo.
Ndoa siyo fashion ya nguo au kuburudisha watu, ndo

a ni agano la kuishi maisha matakatifu na mume au mke wako, mbele ya jamii na zaidi mbele ya Mungu, ukiishi kikamilifu katika ndoa na kufuata agano mliloweka.

Usiingie katika ndoa kama hauna uelewa wa kutosha nini maana ya ndoa, ndugu zangu ni wakati wa kuamka tujifunze kwa undani nini maana ya ndoa na nini maana ya kupenda, tusiishi kwa mazoea, ulimwengu umebadilika lazima kurudi katika busara za wazee wetu na katika maandiko matakatifu kutafakari kuhusu uchumba na maisha ya ndoa.

Nashukuru kwa kuwa nami katika makala hii

Sierra Leon’s Bolt and Ethiopia’s Betty became the first couple to engage in a “se*x act” in Big Brother Africa – The Chase.  Sex isn’t really anything new to BBA, many of you may still remember BBA Housemates Keagan and Talia’s romping during The Stargame.

Hailing from Ethiopia, one of the oldest Christian communities in the world and where the majority of the population are Orthodox Christians; Betty, 26, a translator and teacher from Addis Ababa has definitely ruffled some conservative feathers.

Social media and bloggers were set afire, including prominent radio presenters in Betty’s home country, Ethiopia.

Facebook pages like “Betty Didn’t Represent Ethiopia on Big Brother Africa” have sprouted, condemning Betty’s very-open “hook up” on live television.